Marriage.

We do many stupid things when we are
self-ignorant.Getting married or to see our kids get married is one
such act without knowing the consequences of what we are doing.
Self-ignorance is a non existential state and there is always an element of insecurity and fear in the action arising out of that state.So all our actions are based on insecurity,fear and marriage is such an action.
In marriage there is possession and the relation is based on mutual usage,so we are trying to reduce a living human being into a thing.
Such relationship always results in perennial conflict.Because of fear
we make marriage legal.Once it is made legal the partners take each other for granted.In this way the possibility of love is poisoned and killed.Each partner tries to protect each other,guarding,detecting.They are enemies trying to prove in
every possible way who the master is.There is always a cold war
with the intention to dominate the other.All our relations are adjustments and if one of the partner changes the adjustment is broken.In every relationship there is subtle bondage of expectations,
demands which are followed by complaints,frustrations.
Each relationship ends in such a bitterness that one cannot believe
that this is the same relationship that has begun in a sweet way.
So i feel marriage is out of date,we have to discover new form of
relating which is based on love,a new dimension in which both the partners flower in love,thus making the things more beautiful than
it is now.